ItвЂ™s taboo, itвЂ™s naughty, itвЂ™s sensual at the same time. Sonya: I definitely enjoy it from my end. But the prep of them wanting to shower before and making sure they are in the right headspace - since many men are socialized to believe that enjoying anything anal вЂњmakes them gayвЂќ or emasculates them - means that we might not do it every time we have sex. I like the phrase вЂњEat the booty like groceriesвЂќ вЂ¦ It is a regular part of my sex life since all my partners know how much I enjoy giving a rim job. With current partners, I use a glove so I can also massage their asshole with my finger and not worry about my nails or anything hurting them. If I do it now, I use lube, because more вЂњslipperyвЂќ is always better. We did not discuss it, but it was a very explorative relationship so we tried a lot of different things out. The first time was spontaneous, but I felt comfortable with this person and knew they had just showered. I had seen it in porn, which made it almost normalized, so I just went for it. If you are licking someoneвЂ™s asshole, that act itself will most likely not lead to an orgasm, so adding the hand action to it just adds to the pleasure and hopefully brings an orgasm. I have never discussed it with a partner, it has always been a natural progression in sexual exploration orally. How exciting would it be if you knew everything that would happen? Or a letdown if it didnвЂ™t, for whatever reason?Д¬arly: I honestly think itвЂ™s intuitive. Sex is fun and spontaneous, not mapped out or planned. It definitely wasnвЂ™t talked about beforehand. For rimming or a rusty trombone, lube isnвЂ™t necessary, but some people enjoy the extra slippery feel or taste of flavored lubes. Scrubbing each other is a great warm-up, anyway. If one thing feels good, and another feels just as good, wouldnвЂ™t both simultaneously be amazing? Well, I was right вЂ¦ IвЂ™d suggest a shower beforehand. If my partner is excited to try something new, I am excited to learn something new!

All my fears were smashed, since the taste and smell of his ass was nothing like I expected: it was pleasant and not intense. I was nervous because thatвЂ™s a butthole, but the second I heard him moan with pleasure, I was hooked.

He tried to always shower before as prep. We used no lube (I personally donвЂ™t want any lube in my mouth other than saliva) and I inserted a finger in his ass, but no other toys. Kenna: My partner suggested it before we tried it the first time, and since then I have always brought it up with partners before trying it.

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